Ways To A Loving Relationship? Read This...

source: thedailylove.com

If you’re looking for a truly Loving relationship, it is very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t on the path to self-love. We don’t have to love ourselves perfectly to find awesome love, but we have to be on the path to self-love. This also means that whomever we choose to be in a relationship with should be on that path, too.

There will never be a perfect moment where we love ourselves perfectly and then we can be in a relationship. It’s a constant process of discovery with no end. But for a relationship to thrive and for intimacy to emerge, each person must be dedicated to growth; otherwise, you will hit a wall.

A huge revelation for me recently has been that nobody, including myself, is perfect. It sounds obvious when I write it, but for many years I would meet people and project this expectation of perfection on to them. And I would get mad, angry and hurt when they wouldn’t meet that expectation. So, I’ve recently decided that from the beginning of any relationships I start, that I want to acknowledge my own imperfection as well as the imperfection of the other person and consciously choose to enter into a relationship not seeking perfection, but rather loving each other’s imperfections. And instead of looking to the other person to meet all our needs perfectly, to take our eyes off of ourselves and put them on The Uni-verse.

I believe that the only perfect Love is the Love of The Uni-verse. We are constantly nurtured by it: with oxygen, with sun, with community and with free will. We are fully supported in this life by The Uni-verse. It is the thoughts of lack, of fear and of neediness that make us feel as if we are not. When we remember this, we can remember our true essence and start to be at peace. When we realize that the only perfect love is the Love of The Uni-verse, we can no longer have the insane expectations that other people are perfect and expect perfect love from them.

We then step into the reality of imperfection that is the human condition. This is a humble place and it is from this humble place that we acknowledge that we need to grow, to work on ourselves and to walk the Path of self-love. To be in relationship with someone who isn’t on this path makes Love very difficult.

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So, are you willing to step out into self-love? Are you willing to set a high standard to let people into your life who have the same commitment?